VOLLEYBALL - BOYS'

Dear Parents: 

Just as a classroom teacher needs your support to bring out the best in your child, we also look for your help in this area. 

Inevitably your child will, at some point during the season, feel frustrated or disappointed with some aspect of the program. Often this frustration is a result of a coaching decision that affects him. 

If he has a question, a problem or a misunderstanding, encourage them to see us for the explanation. Avoid taking sides with them until they have discussed the situation with us, as we may be the only ones who can adequately give them a satisfactory answer. As has been explained, we will openly and clearly explain our position. 

The player-coach relationship is very delicate and demands a great deal of mutual respect. We will develop our respect for your child if they handle their problems directly with us. Parental interference can damage the relationship that we are hoping to develop. Having the player deal directly with adults is an important aspect of the maturation process and should be encouraged at all times. 

If you wish to speak with us about a matter concerning your child’s playing performance, please remember that we will openly discuss things with you provided that common courtesy is extended. An emotional outburst or confrontation will only serve to draw us apart. Ultimately, your child will sense the lack of cooperation between their parents and coaches, and tend to lose their interest for what we are hoping to accomplish. It is critical that we work together on your child’s behalf—it is of no benefit to them if we pull against each other. Encourage your child’s relationship with us; they want and need your constant support and approval.  

We fully understand and appreciate how much you want your child to play his best. However, it is important that you leave the coaching to us. As professionals, we know what is best for our team’s improvement. We know our coaching profession just as well as parents know their profession or trade. In your eagerness to see your child do well, you may suggest to them to do just the opposite of what we have instructed them to do. Naturally, this results in confusion and leads to poor performance.  

In your child’s best interest, trust that we are experts in our field and allow them the benefit of playing the game one way—the coach’s way. We have spent years studying the best ways to teach the game. This is carried over in our teaching of sound principles of volleyball. Our previous history of coaching success bears this out. 

Finally remember that parental support is of the utmost value in the important task of helping your child do their very best. One or two parents thinking negatively can do a great deal of harm to the entire program.